5 Ways to Get Your Teenager Listening to You

You might feel it’s impossible to get your teenager listening. It’s a common problem. Lots of families complain that teens just don’t pay attention to them.

So what does lack of attention look like and what can you do to help your child listen to you?

What does your teenager listening look like?

When we think of children paying attention, it normally means them stopping what they’re doing and sitting still. You might feel they’re not paying attention if they’re squirming in their seat, fidgeting, doodling, or playing with something.

However, children are made to be active. They find it difficult to sit still for any length of time. They may be listening even though their body is moving. Asking them to repeat an instruction back is an easy way to check if they’re paying attention to you.

Why are they not paying attention?

There are many reasons why your teen might not be paying attention when you speak.

They could be:

• • Focused on something else: When your teenager is intently doing something, they may literally not hear you. This is something adults are guilty of too!

• • Worried about something: If they feel stressed or under pressure, they may struggle to focus on what you’re saying.

• • Choosing not to listen: Your child may find it hard to stop playing a computer game or activity they enjoy.